Some Things

It's late and i shouldn't be on here, but i just transferred my latest history notes from one notebook to another, and i think i deserve a break. Also my neck is in serious pain, and i'm gonna assume it's cause i've been working so hard. ಥ◡ಥ 

Speaking of working hard, i honestly haven't been doing much of that lately. I get so overwhelmed by all the work i have to do that i don't get any of it done. It's times like these that i wish i could drop out. University is too fast for me sometimes. I should take an even smaller course load, but i don't want to be here for another five years. I want to be done.

I've been having sudden bursts of things that i want to write on here and for my assignments, but i never write them down at the moment. And that's why i'm sitting here past one in the morning struggling to get my work done. 

I have two quizzes to do in about 12 hours and i don't think i'm ready. I want to do well. I need to study more. The stuff i'm learning in Korean class at the moment are not even difficult; i just need to put in the time. I think once Wednesday comes i'd be able to breathe and get my shit together. 

When it comes to this blog, i don't know where i want it to go. Should i keep on writing personal shit that most no one cares about or should i go back to reacting to the world and talking about superficial shit that really doesn't matter?

Youtube is always recommending me videos of the most irrelevant and annoying white people on the internet and i don't know why. Like i'm sitting here watching almost exclusively Black and Korean content, and then they suggest i watch an Adele video. Why? What can she do for me? Have i ever showed an interest in her in the past three years? Get it together Youtube/Google.

I watched Peppermint Candy for my Korean film class and that movie made me so mad. Like why am i sitting here watching this abusive asshole for two hours? I'm so conflicted about how i feel about it though cause it's clear that Buddy was suffering, but at the same time does being upset at life really make you cheat on your wife? -__- Or are you just a shitty person? I suppose i should save my thoughts on the movie for my actual assignment. 

Okay this is getting too long. I need to put what little energy i have left into studying. Good night.



Sitting here listening to Kiah Victoria and avoiding my responsibilities. I've got some emails to return and some general inbox cleaning to do. Two film reviews to write that are due this week, and a lot of reading to catch up on. I miss having semesters. January used to be a fresh start, but now I've got work carrying over from last term. 

I suppose it doesn't help that i've been watching Heroes almost everyday for the past week. This show is so frustrating, but i can't stop watching. The end is in sight. I didn't finish watching it the first time around since it got so bad, but i'm determined to finish it this time. 

I'm an auntie again! My baby girl was born this past Thursday. Full head of hair and fat cheeks. (◕‿◕✿) I don't know if i can handle anymore children at this time. Two is enough. haha Maybe in five years time i'd like another niece or nephew. 

My mom said i can get a bird. I'm not sure how serious she is about this cause she told me last year that i can get a rabbit, and i am still rabbit-less. I don't know much about birds though and not sure if i'd be able to handle the noise. I probably won't get one.

I'm on my second round of antibiotics. Last two weeks of December i had a throat infection, double ear infection, double pink eye, lost voice, runny nose, and sore jaw. Then almost as soon as i was off the antibiotics, i got sick again, but with a different infection. Hoping this will be it for the year.

My Korean drumming teacher figured out that i know Korean. So now I'm feeling a little awkward cause i don't know if there's an expectation for me to ever speak Korean or bow every class. haha

My goals for 2016:

stop being depressed
be a better friend
be a better student
get box braids  
take my vitamins everyday
start blogging consistently again
get shit done when it's due
get a cat
keep all the house plants alive
grow some food
get a summer job
read the books i own before i buy more
start drawing again
resist the urge to cut all my hair off
reply to all emails
finally finish watching a Korean drama
wear makeup at least once a week
actively participate in a school club
watch all my "watch later" videos on youtube 

What are your plans for the year?

My subscription feed on youtube is really slow right now. Do you know of any good channels i should follow?


Star Wars: A Confession


I haven't finished it yet. 

Judge all you want. I have a good reason to be behind most other fans. 

Several years ago i decided not to watch Episode III because i didn't want the story to end. Six episodes was all there was and i was happy with not having the story complete. (Not all good things must come to an end.)  

I seriously didn't have any intention of watching Episode III any time soon. But now that there are more episodes on the way i feel like i have to finish watching the ones we already have. I am a little worried that these new movies won't live up to my expectations and i'd regret finishing the originals, but at the same time i am super pumped the closer i get to watching the new one. 

I'm currently in the process of re-watching the originals, and i'll finish off with Episode III. Finally. After that, i'll probably stay away from twitter and tumblr as much as possible to avoid spoilers cause i'm not gonna watch Episode VII until Christmas week. 

Are you excited for the new movies or are you gonna pretend that the story isn't really continuing?

On a sort of unrelated note, i am super keen to help this movie dethrone the forever terrible Avatar. haha I seriously hate that movie so much and am willing to throw some money at a serious contender for the top spot.


It's All Wrong

Sorrowing Old Man by Vincent Van Gogh
I can't seem to get anything done. I'm so tired of writing about how depressed, unmotivated, uninspired, and useless i am. For years people have been telling me that it gets better, but it doesn't. That's a huge lie. Life is so fucking miserable. Tired and lonely. The bad things keep on adding up and i can't seem to get past them. This world is a terrible place. People are evil. There is no meaning to anything. 

This kind of depression doesn't go away. It never will. I will never be well. I will never be in a constant state of happiness. I cannot run away from this. It follows me everywhere. My brain is messed up and no one can fix it. 

Then i think about the future. People say that i'm young and i've got my whole life ahead of me. I don't want to feel like this for another fifty years. My whole life is ahead of me, but i have nothing to look forward to.

I am moving backwards. Every day is a struggle. The simplest tasks are so difficult. I cannot take care of myself anymore. Everything is late, and everything is wrong. Even this post makes no sense. I feel so alone. There is nowhere for me to go. This is no way to live. Nothing has worked so far, and it has been so long. 

I am trapped in the wrong body, mind, place, and time. Life cannot go on that way. For anyone. I cannot see myself anywhere. Just dreams of a different life. A better life. I don't know what to do or where to go.


The Fool That I Am

Last October i dropped out of school cause i was really sick, feeling super uncomfortable in my living situation, and hated my school. Over the past ten months i have tried to get my shit together, but i still feel like I'm failing at life. 

This is my first full week at a new uni and i have been really nervous and excited. Today i got all ready to study Korean and feel like a productive human being. My snack was packed, i had my bus fare and my text/work/notebooks were ready to go. 

Just over half way through my seven minute walk to the bus stop i felt like something wasn't right. It was just after 12pm, but i felt like i was missing something. Oh right! My class starts at 12:30, not 2:30 like i thought. So i could just run to class, right? HA! Wouldn't that be nice. But nah, it takes two hours to get to school. By the time i'd get there class would be done. 

What a joke. I am such a joke. First week of school and i'm already failing. I don't know if i'm doing the right thing. I don't know if i'm ready. All the time i've spent over the past year in therapy, constantly seeing my doctor, trying to find the right meds for me, working on becoming more organized, and blah blah blah... I don't know if it's worked yet. 

I am aware that i'm catastrophizing. This isn't the end of the world, and i'm not going to fail my class because i got my schedule mixed up today. But i'm so sick of sucking at life. How do people do it? 


White Rachel

***This post is so outdated, but i wanted to still post this cause there are some good videos here that i can easily direct people too when they have something stupid to say about white people forcing there way into black spaces.***

This has gone beyond a privileged white woman lying about her identity. This whole thing has become damaging to black women, trans people, mixed people, and people with mental health issues. But it's the people who don't fall into any of these categories who are speaking the loudest, and usually in support for Rachel. 

When the story first broke out, i couldn't stop laughing. The whole thing was just so ridiculous to me. It never occurred to me that people would actually take her seriously. But then shit got real the next day. The most ridiculous comparisons were being made to what Rachel has done. I couldn't understand why anyone was standing behind her. No, Rachel is not black, and no, she never will be. It's not up for debate. And yet here i am days later, still talking about it. 

I've had a really difficult time putting my thoughts into words, so i put together a list of videos and posts that i think explain the whole situation with a lot more clarity than i than i am able to relay. I think it's important to notice who these people are. I know that people in majority groups have something to say about Rachel, but please know that this isn't the time for you to speak. It's time for you to listen. 

I am biracial. Yes, the very white-looking person you see in the picture above has a black mother and a white father. They are my biological parents, and there’s a zero percent chance of them coming forward and saying that I’m lying about it, unlike the parents of NAACP chapter president Rachel Dolezal, who, as you might have heard, has allegedly been pretending to be black for years. 
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Hey hey, just wanted to make something clear:

Social media has been sorta hard for me to deal with for the past few days. This issue of Rachel Dolezal is very personal to me as a black woman and as a trans woman. These are two groups of people that I embody that have a history of dehumanization and sexual violence because of that dehumanization. So I feel really personally invested in these conversations and honestly it's sorta been eating me up. I've checked out of most of the discourse around this issue, but I wanted to make this post to clarify a few things.
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The Return of Superman (슈퍼맨이 돌아왔다)

Blogged this from my phone, so apologies ahead of time if this isn't the best quality and for overlooked errors...

Couldn't sleep last night so I watched The Return of Superman, Chuseok special, that would later become a regular show. I laughed and cried so much. Some of the fathers were so clumsy, but they all love their children so much. It's such a beautiful show. I'm glad I'm so behind. There's so much to look forward to as these families will grow in front of everyone's eyes. I wish we had a show like this on this side of the globe so we all could be reminded that there's still love in this world, and we sometimes have to find it in the little things.

I also got home sick. I miss Korea so much. Obviously watching a Korean show I'd be constantly reminded of the country I've grown to love. From the fuzzy rice cookers to having strangers asking you questions, I miss the feeling of safety and coziness that Korea gave me. Here in Toronto I get scared to look into someone's eyes in case they think I've looked at them the wrong way, and who knows what next.

My friends always ask me when I will return to Korea and I can never give a definite answer cause I'm stuck working on getting a degree to prove to society that I'm not an idiot. It doesn't matter though, society is trained to value certain people over others, and I'm not in the valued group for reasons beyond my control. So why waste my time? Why can't I just go back to Korea now? I'm so tired of Toronto. So tired of Canada. So tired of a prime minister who's been acting like a dictator as he goes around ruining this country and calling anyone who disagrees with him a terrorist.

I want to go back now. I want to eat an over priced apple in Korea cause I miss the taste of wax-less apple skin. I want to ride a bike along Han River with friends on a hot day in summer. I want to get drunk with friends outside of a 711. I want to talk to local shop owners who make it their mission to make sure the foreigners in their area are doing well. I want to get lost in a city and not be scared of the new area I find myself in. I want to take a four hour train ride to Gwangju and talk to an auntie about good diet foods. (Yes mama! Tell me about how you lost that 20 pounds.) I want to walk into a restaurant and order food to-go like a pro as the locals watch in amazement. I want to take selfies in the middle of nowhere and everywhere without having people judge me in my moment of vain-ness. I want to go back now.

For the moment all I have is memories and TV shows like The Return of Superman. I will use them to help me get through these next few years of school. I will use them as motivation to do the best I can. And I will use them as an escape for those days that I feel hopeless living in this terrible society. I will return just as those mothers eventually do. Only my time gone will have been more than 48 hours.